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Sex After Divorce
Divorce is a developmental stage of adulthood. Every adult who is in partnership will, at some point lose a partner to divorce or death and will have to find their way again. The question is: What will we create out of the rubble? What magic will open up? How will we...
The 9 Steps to Sexual Empowerment
People are often confused by what I mean when I say I work with people to become sexually empowered and that there are steps to sexual empowerment. Sexuality is so vast that when people want to work on their sexual selves they often don't even know where to begin. One...
Sex is a Skill
Most of us experience fumbly, awkward, unsexy early ventures into the forays of sexual pleasuring with a partner without sex skills. I certainly did. In a culture like ours, where we place so little emphasis on teaching sex education, we are all left to stumble about...
The Secret to Talking Openly About Sex
My path as an educator included earning a Masters in Human Sexuality Education, but you don’t have to go get a graduate degree in human sexuality to learn how to really talk openly about sex. Anyone who cares about having a fulfilling, meaningful sexual life, anyone...
Skillful Sexual Communication in Couples
For so many years, I have heard stories from people–both men and women about their lost sexual lives, or about the lack of sexual communication in couples. I hear a lot of pain, sadness and a real loss in these stories. I hear from a lot of people who have been in...
What’s a Sex Coach?
When I tell someone that I’m a sex coach, they generally find it confusing. Often, I will hear, “Oh, so like, you’re a sex therapist?” Well not exactly. “So then, what is it that you actually do?” Sex coaching has made it to the news a few times and I was...
Am I Sexually Broken?
I have been hearing from women over the last several months about this idea that they are sexually broken. And a lot of times they are welling up with tears, and this is the first time they’ve ever voiced this to someone. It’s this idea that there is something about...
Me and Dan Savage Disagree about Desire
I listen to Dan Savage’s Savage LoveCast and I frequently agree with him, often with loud cheers, and big “Yes, Dan, tell them!” type enthusiasm. I listened to the show he did a couple weeks ago where he addressed a 38-year-old virgin, desire, and romantic...
Flirting is Sacred
I love to flirt.Flirting is play.Play is an essential part of our sacred dharma.Flirting is sacred play. Sometimes a flirt comes out a bit unintentionally, like the other night when I said to a friend after making a goof, “You can give me a hard time. I can take it.”...
Walking the Tightrope of Pleasure and Danger
When people find out that I am a sexual empowerment coach, a lot of the time their response is: “Oh, so you do prevention?” I always smile inwardly because I know what this assumption means. No, I answer, I’m not here to prevent your sexuality — actually I’m here...
Facing the Shadows: Healing with ShadowWork®
A note from Amy Jo: This week I’m pleased to share a guest article by my friend and colleague Karin Green, who is my co-creatrix in the Healing Sexual Trauma Weekend we’ll be offering in Seattle this fall. Karin’s article describes some of the...
What’s the Value of Your Sex Life?
Multiple times a week I hear people say they want their sexuality to be a priority, they want to put more energy into it, or they want to stop putting their sex life on the back burner. My response is usually that if they really want their sexual life to change, they...
Is Your Diploma in “Not Enough”?
We’ve all heard about the historical legacy of women not making as much money as men for the same jobs—a pattern that (not) surprisingly still exists today. Part of the reason is that women are afraid to ask for raises or more money and are apologetic about it...
Rebirthing Yourself Out of Loss
Experiencing a painful loss this week as my animal companion and dear friend of nearly 19 years went to the next world, I got to thinking about what is birthed out of loss. There is no greater human experience than love and loss—two sides of the same...
Increasing your creative flow
https://youtu.be/D0l1zk8DgPI I’ve always believed there is a strong connection between sex and money. Both need a deep well of creative flow in order to go well. And everyone is here to create. Problems arise when something blocks that flow. In this short...
Sex + Money: The Two Pillars of Joy
There are two things we don’t teach young people about, and that we do a poor job of teaching adults about. They are the two things we need most–and also the two things for which education and the right tools would be a total game changer. Ever wonder why we get zero...
Running Away from Your Sex Life
As we enter the holiday season of busy travel and social engagements, I thought I’d mention a few things about travel and your sex life. It’s way too easy to put your sex life on hold until “I’ll deal with that next year,” becomes your mantra. Then you look back...