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Sex After Divorce
Divorce is a developmental stage of adulthood. Every adult who is in partnership will, at some point lose a partner to divorce or death and will have to find their way again. The question is: What will we create out of the rubble? What magic will open up? How will we...
The 9 Steps to Sexual Empowerment
People are often confused by what I mean when I say I work with people to become sexually empowered and that there are steps to sexual empowerment. Sexuality is so vast that when people want to work on their sexual selves they often don't even know where to begin. One...
Sex is a Skill
Most of us experience fumbly, awkward, unsexy early ventures into the forays of sexual pleasuring with a partner without sex skills. I certainly did. In a culture like ours, where we place so little emphasis on teaching sex education, we are all left to stumble about...
The Secret to Talking Openly About Sex
My path as an educator included earning a Masters in Human Sexuality Education, but you don’t have to go get a graduate degree in human sexuality to learn how to really talk openly about sex. Anyone who cares about having a fulfilling, meaningful sexual life, anyone...
Skillful Sexual Communication in Couples
For so many years, I have heard stories from people–both men and women about their lost sexual lives, or about the lack of sexual communication in couples. I hear a lot of pain, sadness and a real loss in these stories. I hear from a lot of people who have been in...
What’s a Sex Coach?
When I tell someone that I’m a sex coach, they generally find it confusing. Often, I will hear, “Oh, so like, you’re a sex therapist?” Well not exactly. “So then, what is it that you actually do?” Sex coaching has made it to the news a few times and I was...
Am I Sexually Broken?
I have been hearing from women over the last several months about this idea that they are sexually broken. And a lot of times they are welling up with tears, and this is the first time they’ve ever voiced this to someone. It’s this idea that there is something about...
The Problem with People Pleasing
Nearly every person I work with as a sex coach must look at their relationship to people pleasing at some point as part of our work. I have come to see this as a central issue that must be addressed in the sexual empowerment work I do with everyone. So let’s get real...
What is Sexual Initiation?
We are in deep need of a return to intentional sexual initiation in our world. As our world changes and morphs at rapid pace, we are longing for the power of ritual and wise teachings to anchor and root us in our highest aspects of self-evolution. We long to be seen...
I Was Terrified the First Time I Went to a Lesbian Bar
I can still vividly remember the first time I went to a lesbian bar in New York City. Okay, I’d been to one in Dallas once before—but with a big group of friends so it wasn’t as big a deal. This was the big gay city. After I’d landed in Greenwich Village and I’d met...
Your Journey to Sexual Wholeness: Where to go next…
Many of you know that I’ve worked with thousands of people around sexuality and relationships over my 25-year career. In those 25 years, I’ve heard a lot of stories and I’ve talked to so many people about their sexual lives, their frustrations, their pleasure and...
Your Journey to Sexual Wholeness: Where to begin…
I have midwifed so many women through a process of stepping into their personal power and in creating the sexual and financial fulfillment they deeply desire. And I have done it myself. I know what it takes. I know that you can’t fake it. (Although many people try.) I...
What is Erotic Authenticity?
There has been a lot of confusion about the real meaning of the term 'eroticism'. The word is often shrouded with a vague sense of being a watered down way of talking about sex or sexuality. Eroticism includes sex, yet encompasses much more than sex. We all have an...
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But Sex Means Something Different to Me: A Hierarchy of Sexual Needs [Part 1]
Sex means different things to different people. In this post, we'll apply Maslow's popular and well-known psychological theory and come up with a hierarchy of sexual needs. It serves different purposes and needs for each person and those needs can shift as our life...
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Sexual Self-Actualization: A Hierarchy of Sexual Needs [Part 2]
Read part one It’s almost shocking that psychologist Abraham Maslow thought only 1% of people would self-actualize. He thought that "most of us function most of the time on a level lower than that of self-actualization". Source I think most people want to see...
Your Journey to Sexual Wholeness: Coming home to your sexual self
Read Part 1 (1-2), Part 2 (3-4) here The journey to sexual wholeness is not linear. Sometimes it’s circuitous. The last few weeks we have been talking about the 7 gateways to sexual empowerment, these are the gates each individual will greet and make a...