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January 15, 2022
Pleasure & Desire

Racist Homicide Cannot Be Business As Usual #BlackLivesMatter #ItEndsToday

Usually, I write about sex and relationships and what it means to be the best version of yourself. This week I simply cannot ignore that the United States is not being the best version of itself. It can’t even look itself in the mirror and be honest about how much work it has to do to be the land of equality, the home of the free, and the touchstone of democracy it purports itself to be—and about how very racist it is.

A country that routinely pardons a group of people who use their power over another group to kill them—and in that pardoning, excuses those murders—has serious problems. Anyone who has the nerve to say this has nothing to do with race is afraid to look at what race really means in the U.S. We cannot continue to build ourselves up as this superior nation which fights for democracy and freedom when we deny that people of color, and black men, in particular, are targets every single day for harassment, police brutality, violence and yes, murder.

Our justice system promotes an “innocent until proven guilty” system for determining what is criminal, yet in practice, black men are almost invariably guilty until proven innocent when they are suspect of anything. When black men are victims, they are made out to be guilty of all manner of things, many of which are irrelevant, while racial stereotypes that make them out to be dangerous monsters make it nearly impossible for them to ever get justice—or their day in court.

Like so many of us in this country who are much less likely to be harmed or killed, I have the privilege of whiteness as protection.

As an attractive, white woman I get a pass every single day that black men and people of color never get. I am not called a monster or a threat. My body is not touched and disrespected at whim. I am not followed. I am not harassed by police officers. I am not subject to life-threatening choke-holds. I don’t have police cars driving up to me when I am hanging out in a public place, firing their guns. I am not treated as dispensable. Black men are treated this way every single day. Black boys are murdered by gun-happy cops and their parents and families are devastated, and our media talks about what they were wearing to indicate how justified their murder was.

It’s not dissimilar to how we address women who are sexually assaulted, and sexuality is actually a part of this. There is a long history in this country of using stereotypes of black men as menacing and sexually aggressive to oversexualize them and make them seem dangerous. There are so many cases of black men being wrongfully accused of raping white women, and if they were accused, it was as good as guilty and guilty meant death.

While we do not hang black people today in the literal sense, we still do it. These stereotypes and the inability of most American citizens to really look at issues of race perpetuate an institutionalized system that demonizes black men and boys and completely disregards their lives and safety—and its roots are in a country that was founded by enslaving black people. It’s connected.

Black lives matter. Just as much as mine or yours or anyone’s. I remember being at so many protests in NYC in the late 90s and early 2000s when Amadou Diallo, Patrick Dorismund, and Sean Bell were killed by police officers, and here we are again with another big wave of high profile cases that we simply cannot ignore. Today we mourn Eric Garner, Michael Brown and Trayvon Martin as the latest additions to a long list of men and boys who were brutally and needlessly killed, who were not a threat, except for the fact that they were black.

All in the time of our first black president. It’s poetic, really.

How about taking a moment of silence to honor their lives.

Eric Garner

Michael Brown

Trayvon Martin

And now, let’s raise our voices and begin to work towards a justice system and a police force that really does protect and respect our lives, and make this country the place of freedom for all we want it to be. For those of us with white privilege, it is incumbent upon us to use our voices and our power to impact and change this broken, racist system. #AllLivesMatter

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A’magine, formerly Amy Jo Goddard is author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of the best-selling classic Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men. She earned her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education at New York University and has been teaching and speaking about feminism and sexuality for over two decades.

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