Why “Good Guys Finish Last”

As a sex coach, I’ve been talking to A LOT of amazing, available heterosexual women about what they want in a man over the last several years, and I think it’s high time I talk to you guys about it. I co-wrote Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men nearly 15 years ago to help...

When Women “Don’t Like” Other Women

“I don’t really like to spend time with other women.”“I don’t feel comfortable around women.” Ever heard women make these comments? Joined together for healing and growth I always raise an internal eyebrow when I hear such things because I know the joy and healing...

So You Want a Great Relationship?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about commitment. Women often come to me because they want the perfect relationship. They want someone to show up for them, to be true, not to stray, to be present and authentic. They want to be fully loved. And they can’t figure out...

Is Your Avoidance Getting You What You Want?

After being in a nine-year committed relationship with someone who was painfully avoidant I have learned to spot the patterns of avoidance in my clients and the couples with whom I work with a keen eye. I see it come up even in the people who apply to my programs or...

5 Reasons Why Most People Lack Sexual Confidence

When I ask people what they most want for their sexual lives, they often say they really want more confidence. Helping people to build confidence is a huge part of my work with clients, and it’s a huge result of the work we do. So why do most people seem to...

The Truth About Confidence

Last year, I worked with an amazing and outspoken woman who came to me in the wake of a divorce from the only person she’d ever had sex with. Using my Confidence Type system I’d say she was truly a power player in the world, but she was incredibly...